On Love

Gifts from the Lord are like apples growing in an orchard. The Lord grows apple seeds into apples trees. Apples grow on these trees until the time is just right for picking. It is then, at their peak, that apples are to be picked.

In the same way, gifts from the Lord are to be savored “in season.” The Lord has His perfect timing as the gift, or apple, is at its peak. An apple plucked too soon is sour whereas an apple plucked too late is mushy. We mustn’t be too hasty or too patience – we must wait for just the right time.

Marriage is a good example of a gift from the Lord that is to be enjoyed “in season.” Getting married too soon could leave a sour taste in your mouth (i.e.to broken marriages, custody battles, etc). Getting married too late could leave you stomaching that which would have tasted a lot better (i.e. unable to relate to children as the age difference is too great or unable to have kids, etc). No body wants either of these extremes. Are we reduced to picking the lesser of two evils? Is that what the Lord wants for us?

Instead of trying to cultivate patience, running the risk of sourness, and instead of acting on our desires, running the risk of mushiness, may we cultivate love which chooses to see the situation and those involved as they really are and desires the good. In seeing things as they really are, love is able to remain patient until the time is right for action. (We are speaking here of love as a commitment to the good of the beloved, not merely a fleeting feeling. The kind of love we are to have for our neighbors.)

“And above all these (vv. 12-13) put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.”

- Paul, Colossians 3:14 ESV

“A False balance is an abomination to the LORD, but a just weight is His delight.”

- Solomon, Proverbs 11:1 ESV

In considering people’s differing opinions of the good, the question of true love is raised. The true lover knows the true good and seeks to hoist his beloved into the realm of what is real or true. It does my beloved no good to give her an apple when what she needed was a banana.

The question now becomes;

1. Who is the beloved?

And

2. What is best for them?